Have you ever heard the statement, “Attitude is everything!”
In the book Creating an Intimate Marriage by Jim Burns (p. 135-143) suggests five attitude adjustments in marriage:
Criticism shuts down intimacy. No one wants to be naked with someone who is critical!
It is amazing what a simple “thank you” will do to a relationship.
Practice the Golden Rule.
“Do to others what you would have them do to you.” - Jesus Many couples use the rule that says, “Do to others what they do to you” which is a “tit-for-tat rule.”
Control the “If Only’s...”
If only my spouse would do this I would be happy… Happiness is internal. No external action will ultimately fulfill your desire for happiness.
- Choose Fun and Optimism.
Be intentional. Think of one fun thing to add to your marriage. What did you do while you were dating for fun?
Action: Review the list. Pick only one area to work on and start to apply it to your relationship today.
Short article version of book:
Jim Burns' book Creating an Intimate Marriage
Other Marriage Books:
Love that Lasts - by Mike Woodard
"Love That Lasts - 52 Insights for Couples is designed to add depth and richness to their relationships. This collection ofrelationship insights are intended to stimulate discussion, suggest practicalsteps and most of all to keep couples talking! Relational growth is proportional to our consistent soul connection. This book is motivated by a profound belief in the wonder and beauty of a God ordained intimacy between a man and a woman."
Author, FamilyLife Canada